How do we listen to our children? Do we give our full attention when they have something important to say? I remember my oldest son taking my face in his little toddler hands and saying, "I need to tell you something, Mommy." I was, like most mothers, just trying to get things done but it was in those times that I realized that I needed to STOP and LISTEN.
Children communicate in many ways: through what they say, how they behave, and by their body language. Tots are open and honest. They tell you how they feel and say exactly what they want or don't want. It's easier to respond when your child is open. Teens, on the other hand, may require more attention to determine how they really feel about things. If they trust you, teens may open up to their parents especially if they feel a sense of connection. If they don't feel connected, we know that they turn to their peers.
Ask yourself, how much do you really know about your child? Do you know what your child's interests are, what he/she feels strongly about, what goals s/he has, and who their friends are? If not, ask questions based on an interest in your child not like an inquistion. Ask and then LISTEN. When you really know your child, then you can parent the best.
More on connecting . . .
Look for what things will bond your child to you. Do you share interests with your child? Can you get interested in things they like? Can you do things together that you both enjoy? Spending quality time together will build connection and make parenting easier. Spending time together as a family and creating lasting memories filled with joy and laughter will strengthen the bond you have together.
